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Brooklyn, New York, United States
I aspire to inspire your mind, body, & soul through my blog, Facebook Fan pages, and events. In my spare time, I am an aspiring herbalist, write poetry, short stories, and sometimes songs. My life's purpose is to share knowledge and uplift individuals to heights once thought of as unreachable.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Getting Ready for 2011

Are you ready? I am so excited about 2011's arrival because I just have this feeling that it is MY year. Now is the time for you to look back at 2010 and decide what did not work for you and plan on doing things a little differently. If 2010 hasn't taught you anything, you must have been sleeping. Plan not to sleep in 2011. Life is to precious to sleep through.


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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, December 20, 2010

Cherish Your Time

I found out today that a co-worker lost her husband unexpectedly a few days ago. He died the way most of us want to; in his sleep. As usual, when I hear of the passing of someone, I automatically ask God to hold off on any such plans he may have for me. I am not ready to go and neither am I ready for the taking of a loved one. I know, thy will be done, but at least God knows how I feel. I also started to reflect deeper about my commitment to my husband. I know I love him and so, I have decided that I will work a lil harder at making our union more fruitful. I, unfortunately, am a very stubborn person; and that gets in the way of our marital growth. Trust me, hearing of this death was not a wake-up call, it was more of a affirmation. I have, for a couple of days, been thinking about my marriage and how I want it to improve. I have some ideas as to what I need to stop doing and that will be my starting point. While many start their New Year's resolutions on January 1st, I have started mine on my last birthday which was December 18th.
Source:www.vinetbantu.wordpress.com


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Monday, December 13, 2010

Mission Accomplished

It seems like ages since I have last sat in front of my computer to write a blog post. The latter part of my semester was dedicated to minimizing my computer time so that I can focus more on the 3 classes that I decided to keep this semester. Now that the semester is over, I feel like a fish out of water, because I am disconnected from, what appeared to be, a life cord.

Well, I am looking for that cord so that I can reconnect it. It may be temporary, but ...... (that was a random thought). I have a few weeks off and sometime in January, I will back at it. I am taking 5 classes so I can finish. It wasn't supposed to be like that, but since I didn't pass a class from last summer and dropped a class this semester, I am forced to take 5 classes if I want to graduate this coming May. Wish me well please.

So, my mission was accomplished. I successfully completed a semester that had many personal challenges. I am hoping to reduce those distractions, because they can be very fatal. So...

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Saturday, November 6, 2010

Woman to Rule this Country

For those of you that don't know, I am in college. My current humanities class is The Nature of America. This weeks topic is about the American Dream and one of the forum discussions is titled: American Dream changing role of women forum. Here are the details in the discussion:
“The economic crisis of the Great Depression had eroded the centrality of a man’s role as the family breadwinner; the military crisis of the 1940s had given women a new sense of participation in the public workplace” (154). Professor Cullen goes on to talk about the role of women in the 1980s and beyond in terms of “… mothers who worked outside the home and struggled to find the resources—time, money, quality day care—for their families and themselves” (155).

So it was a combination of the Great Depression and World War II that brought women out of their traditional roles of homemakers and mothers. The 1960s brought on a sexual revolution caused by the introduction of the birth control pill and the rise of feminism.

We are now used to seeing women who work outside the home. Hillary Clinton unsuccessfully sought the Democratic presidential nomination in 2008, while Sarah Palin ran for vice president of the U.S. The former secretary of state was Condoleezza Rice, who was succeeded by Hillary Clinton. In Congress, Nancy Pelosi is the Speaker of the House for two-and-a-half more months. In our own state, Elizabeth Dole lost her senate seat in 2008 to another woman, Kay Hagan. Until recently, Meg Whitman was the CEO of eBay and was just defeated in her bid to become governor of Californian, while Carly Fiorina was formerly the CEO of Hewlett Packard and was just defeated in her bid to win a Senate seat in California. And of course, Oprah Winfrey may be the most influential person on network television. According to the Durham Herald-Sun, 60 percent of the students at UNC-Chapel Hill, Appalachian State, and ECU are female.

Today, America faces its greatest economic crisis since the Great Depression and continuing wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, as well as the potential for new threats from Iran and North Korea. Do you think that the future role of American women will change as much in the next 80 years as it has in the last 80 years? Explain your reasons.

Source:
GTCC ~ Professor Steve Mueller

So, a man answers that he thinks
Their will be a few stay at home dads in the future (not many), but eighty years from now women will continue to be denied critical resources such as credit, land, and inheritance.
Source:
Fellow classmate: M. Morgan
He said a few other words as well but I was really shocked by his answer to the question. My reply was this:
Your point of view is very interesting, however I disagree with some of it. More and more women are banding together for a greater cause. If you were to ask women which sex they thought would run this country better, the answer with the most votes would be a woman. I may be biased to your post because I am a woman myself, however based on history, woman have enough experience to run more than just a household. There are many female leaders in this present day; 31 in 28 leading countries and self-ruling territories to be exact. The mere fact that we are seeing an increase in women seeking political office should tell you that their is a shift tacking place for sure. It is unfortunate that so many women have been mentally abused and the ill effect of that is low self esteem. Not sure how many men have been noticing, but women all over this country are reaching out to other women in full force - there will be little to none hating on other women and much more women looking in the mirror with confidence. So with that said, eighty years from now, women can not be denied critical resources as you are suggesting. Oh, maybe you didn't know that there are more single women owning homes than single men, more women in college than men, and an increasing number of women are that are leading major companies.
Source:
http://www.guide2womenleaders.com/
I don't think I am alone, matter of fact, I am not alone in my thoughts and the scary thing is, neither is the gentleman that I was responding to. In 80 years I will be 112 and I don't know if I will live that long but definately before then I may run for President or some other high political office one day, my daughter man run for and office and her daughter may run for an office. I want to know that my sisters will back me because they believe in me and not look at me and say, Who does she think she is? I am sincere in what I am asking of all my sisters of this nation. We need not be afraid of each other but lift one another up. We are capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for. Let's give ourselves and each other more credit.


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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Friday, November 5, 2010

Working With Family

We all want more. We all have to work for what we want. We don't want to work hard for it neither. I am filling that 100%. That is why I wanted to share this video with you and give you this message.
I'm ready to help those that want change in their life and are serious. All it takes is $25.00, 5 people, the desire to want to be in business for yourself, and be coachable. Email me at sb.twentyfive@gmail.com and I will be glad to share with you some of my personal development knowledge as well as what got me SOOO EXCITED.



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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Saturday, October 30, 2010

I See Right Thru You

STOP saying out loud the thing(s) you are going to do.

There are people that like to be heard. I think it makes them feel important. Some people may not realize that when you speak out loud, your dreams and aspirations, you are seeking accountablity partners. Accountablity partners want to see you succeed and they will ask you often, "Did you do as you said you were going to do?" Well, what do you think will happen if you keep saying you are going to do and when asked if you did, your answer is always; "no, not yet" "I forgot" "Oh, I cloudn't, but I will in 2 weeks." Come on, are you serious? Obviously not and that is OK, but you need to stop saying out loud the things you are going to do until you are ready to get that done. It is not fare to your accountability partners.


STOP putting off the thing(s) you say you are going to do.

What is really going on? That is what you need to ask yourself; and wait for yourself to answer. You obviously want something more for yourself; albeit, an education, a house, you want to move, you want an upgrade of some tangible thing......and the list can go on. If you have gotten as far as knowing what you need to do to get their and you have not taken the necessary steps to getting there, then you need to figure out what is holding you back. Roadblocks, are just that. They can be moved. You may need a taskforce to move it or you may be able to move it yourself. Bottom line, move it and move on.

I see right thru you

Believe it or not, the video below inspired this posting. Inspiration can come from anywhere, anyone, and anything. We, the people, are powerful beings. We have powers that we don't know we have. Seek within yourself to find out what powers you have and when you start to use them, you will master them.

~~~DON'T UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF~~~~




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Social Butterfly

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Voting Time is Right Around the Corner

I know there are a lot of political commercials on the TV. Tea Partiers (is that a word?) in your town. Politicians knocking on your door. Your neighbors have all these signs on their lawn, too! But, you know what time of year it is! It is time to VOTE and that is literally around the corner. Did you vote last year? I hope you did. This time of the year can be a bit confusing for a lot of us and I am no expert. I rarely watch the news these days. I don't like seeing the negative ads. This year someone informed us all that you can visit VOTE411.ORG, to find out who is running in your neighborhood, Town, City, and State.


My only advice to all my readers is to make your own decision. Vote for who you think best meets your needs and the needs of your area. Don't let others dictate the right candidate.

Mountains are not built in a day!!!!


No one person can do it all!!!!!!


CHANGE takes time and effort!!!!!


Mountains do not stand tall forever, it too falls!!!!!



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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Getting It All Together

I wish this post was about how I got it all together. Let the truth be told, I am far from it. I really want to get it together; but, I just have so many things going on all at the same time, I just don't know where to start.

One of the ways for people to get it together is to start eliminating and that is not so much of an option for me, because I love all that I am involved in.

Another way is to write everything down and keep a calender, you know, to stay more organized. Well, let the truth be told again, I have a calender that I carry in my purse that I don't open enough. One day, I will use it; maybe when I get it all together.

Yet another way is to hire a life coach. Now this folks, I have done and I am so glad I did. It just so happens that mine understands me. Well, you should find one that understands you....how else is he/she gonna help you get it all together. I decided to hire one, because I have all these thoughts in my head, on paper, and in my computer. I hired my life coach to help me with one major aspect of my life and I will be sure to update you on how that is going.

Funny thing, my life coach can not help me get it all together. Or can she? The verdict is out on that one. I am sure I will learn some valuable tools that will help me with other aspects in my life.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Clean Up, Clean Up, Everybody, Everywhere!

Stop thinking that you are doomed.
Stop thinking that nothing good comes your way.
Stop thinking that you are cursed.
It is time to ask yourself; "Am I available to receive the goodness of this world?"

It's clean up time!!

Clean out the garbage in your mind. Get rid of the negative thoughts that you say to yourself on a daily basis. Let go of the negative people that hang around you like leeches. Once you start cleaning out and cleaning up, you should notice positive things happening to you. It may not be when or how you want it, but it will be on time.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Back to Basics

I have been through a whirlwind. One of the longest storms that I have been through in a long time. This time it lasted about 2 or 3 weeks. Just like at the end of every storm, you must assess the damage and then clean it up.

I am going through my assessment and the damage is great. The best way for me to tackle this clean up is by going back to basic. What are the things that I have done to help me through my previous crisis?

1. Prayer ~ I will go back to reading my prayer everyday. I realize that it needs to be revised again.
2. Affirmations ~ I need to start reading my affirmations daily; that too, needs to be revised.
3. One at a time ~ I just need to pick up each piece one at a time and decide if it is worth keeping or tossing.

These 3 things are the basics for me to help me get my life back on track. What things do you do when you realize the storm is over and you need to clean up your life?

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Thursday, October 7, 2010

The Poetic Spit & Hmmmmm, Music

The Poetic Spit

I love music. It has affects that are hard to explain. I love to write, and that too has affects that are hard to explain. My words flow, it flows so fast that if I am not ready, I will lose it. Strange feeling, I can beg and beg, for those words to come back to me. Its like the bus driver that saw you running and kept going so that the schedule can be kept. I love my spirit for together we make beautiful music together.

Hmmm, Music

I enjoy being in my room alone
The house is quiet, my room is my own
My head space begins to clear
My soul rejoices and cheers
The words flow and sounds sweet to me
The music that plays makes me free
I am free to be me
When my house is quiet, my room my own
I spit things that only I can hear
My paper becomes my companion
My pen is ever so near
The singer sings the blues
The melodies feel my cup
Gives me motivation
As that cup overflows
The singer continues to blow
My soul says please
Play one more song
Hmmmmm, Music
My spirit is not done with me
I need more music to inspire me
Hmmmmm, Music
It does wonders for me
The soothing affect
keeps my thoughts in check

Spit: To bust a rhyme. To freestyle.

I hope you enjoyed my randomness. I often write something random in my notebook or in my word document. Tonight, I was inspired by the music that is playing on my phone and the quietness of my personal space. I am often at this place on Thursday nights as that is the last day that I work for the week. I feel a sense of relief because I know that tomorrow is mine to enjoy on my own terms. So for that very reason, my Spirit inspires me, comforts me, and assures me of the many blessings and gifts that I have.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Proactive Parenting: Grades

Social Butterfly Presents: Proactive Parenting


Proactive: Acting in advance to deal with an expected difficulty; anticipatory...

Parenting: The rearing of a child or children, especially the care, love, and guidance given by a parent.

Grades


Does your child know what grades he/she is expected to make? I think it is very helpful to tell your child what is acceptable, repeatedly. I have been blessed with really smart kids, however, the blessing falls short because my smart kids don't always make bring home smart school grades. When it comes to school; you will have children that are smart and make good grades everytime, smart and doesn't always make good grades because they have a very different agenda (mine), average B-C student, and students who struggle to grasp what is going on. I am sure these types can be broken down further, but I am sure you understand where I am going. So with that said, I have to sometimes push my children up, when they are falling down. I don't mind it, but it can be frustrating sometimes when I get that progress report and I see C average in some of those classes. They know I will be mad, so why don't they prevent that grade before hand, I don't know.

So, my question to you is, :Does your children know what is expected of them when it comes to their education?" Please share your expectations, I might want to adopt it. LOL

Some people really feel that the US school system is failing because of the parents. As stated in a previous post, I disagree; however we can continue to be proactive parents and help our children be the best they can be.

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Social Butterfly

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Proactive Parenting: Bullying

Social Butterfly Presents: Proactive Parenting



Proactive: Acting in advance to deal with an expected difficulty; anticipatory...

Parenting: The rearing of a child or children, especially the care, love, and guidance given by a parent.

Bullying

Parenting is not an easy job; however, it is a rewarding one. One of the mantras my children hear me say is, "My job is to teach you right from wrong." If we don't teach them right from wrong, they may not get that lesson elsewhere.

Currently, there are children who are killing themselves because of bullying. I have never been bullied to the point where I felt helpless, but there are children who are experiencing this daily. I know children tease each other, I witness it in my own house. Each and everytime I hear them, I cut it short and let them know that that sort of behavior is unexceptiple. It is not tolerated in or outside of our home.

I can not pretend that I know what is in the mind of a child that bullys; but as a parent, I strongly feel that we can start letting our children know that someones differences are normal. Humans are not all the same. The younger your child is the better. Let's be proactive parents.


Life lessons are easy to incorporate in your families daily life.


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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, October 4, 2010

Tired? Drink Water!

12 Surprising Things That Are Making Your Tired // Woman drinking water (© Biggie Productions/Getty Images)

I just read this article, 12 Surprising Things That Are Making You Tired. Mild dehydration is the #7 reason that I may be tired. I don't know about you, but I do not drink enough. I am one of those people who hate water by itself. I just can't drink water just to be drinking it. I have to have something to eat or be thirsty. According to the article, by the time you are thirsty, you have already lost body fluid.

There are so many reasons why a person can be tired. I would say the best way to figure out which one is your primary is to start making some adjustments 1x1.

I am on day 4 of my 30 day blog challenge. I am getting them in.

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Sunday, October 3, 2010

Are You Waiting for Superman? Pt.1

Ok, so, I haven't seen the new documentary, "Waiting for Superman," but I really want to go and see it. When it comes to the education system of the United States, I have often wondered what was it's true agenda. I remember my elementary years were filled with learning at Pilgrim Christian Academy. In 8th grade, I had to go to public school. Yes, it was a scary moment in my life. During the 1st week of school, I had learned that I was smarter than my classmates, knew more then most of the kids, and did this work either a year or two ago. Those are not lessons you want your child to learn the first week of school. I was successful at dumbing myself down just so I can fit in. When I was a teenager, my brother was either in the 1st or 2nd grade. He was so proud of his grade, it was an A or B, and I looked at his paper to see a misspelled word. I was soo confused. How could a teacher miss that, "Your teacher must be dumb." Thats was I told him and he went crying off somewhere. My mom told me it was mean to say such things. By the time I had my children, I just knew that my children where not going to public school. Needless to say, I had the opportunity to send then to a parochial school, but due to circumstances they had to go to public school.

I have set very high standards for my children. They do know what is expected of them. I knew that education was important when I was a child and my children know that too. They all know that they are going to college right out of High School and if they don't know what they want to do they will get an Associates degree in something of interest.

I was watching Larry King the other evening when Prof. Ben Stein suggested that parents are to blame for the education system failing. Ok, if he didn't say it, he inferred it. I couldn't disagree with the man anymore than I already was. Parents are a child's first teacher, but once they get in school, there isn't much else the parent can do. Yes, there are basics; make sure your child is in a safe and working environment, has the essential tools needed to do the work, and eat balanced meals. If there are somethings that I am missing, please comment. I have a laundry list of things that I blame these parents for and it has nothing to do with the what the teacher is teaching my child.

I remember learning my multiplication table in the 2nd or 3rd grade; by grade 3 or 4, I was writing papers and using the encyclopedia for a science paper. I am sure I can muster up some more memories, but essentially the school system is failing our children because their standards have been lowered. Yet, when a child comes to America and enters the school system they are left back a grade, or what about all the immigrants who have degrees and were practicing Medicine or Nursing in their home country; they can not do the same here. They have to go to school all over again. We ranked 20th in the top 25 of developing countries education list. You can travel anywhere in the world and take your degrees and practice your craft, but here in America, you have to start over. This is not a fare system and our children can't compete in the world yet alone against other schools in the same state.

Become open-minded. Learn the views of others so that yours is well-rounded. Pledge to see Waiting for Superman. I did.

Parents are a child's first teacher, but once they get in school, there isn't much else the parent can do.
Part 2 will explore what else we can do as parents to help our children succeed.
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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Saturday, October 2, 2010

5 Things I need to work on

1. Stop procrastinating
2. Start creating to-do list and crossing things off
3. Writing
4. Studying
5. Stop procrastinating

Yes, I repeated something 2x. What are you top 5 things you need to work on.

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Friday, October 1, 2010

Saving Our Children from others

Wow!! I just watched an Ellen Degeneres' video about young people who have ended their lives withing the last month or so. I recently wrote an article, A Child's Thoughts; it's purpose was to bring to the forefront a few points worth considering when pointing fingers.

There is a lot of work to be done, no matter which side of the spectrum; you as a parent, are on. We need to talk to our children; self-esteem is very important. When anyone, yet alone a child, is low on it, it can be detrimental.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

30 Day Challenge

I am seriously contemplating whether or not I should do a 30 day blog challenge. I have so much going on right now, but I have to admit, the thrill of it is drawing me nearer. I wonder why I have to have such a full plate all the time. The best advice I can tell myself right now is go for it. I am destined for greatness and I will not get there with minimal efforts.

I hope you are ready, because I am. I don't know what content you will get, but I already have a few ideas. I have a few other goals that I am working towards starting tomorrow.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Friday, September 24, 2010

Social Butterfly Website

I went ahead and made a website for Social Butterfly. Now, if I can just get some help with that SEO stuff, we will be alright. Hint, hint.

Almost everyone knows what a Social Butterfly is; however, this Social Butterfly has reinvented the term and is making a name for herself.

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Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Raising Taxes? Are you kidding me!!!

I wrote this blog just a few days ago while at work, so sorry if it is a bit outdated.

Thursday, September 16th I think; I overheard on CNN the complaints of someone about the raising of taxes when Bush's tax law expires.

I'm sorry, I am a bit confused. Are we talking about raising taxes on the rich or taxing them period. I mean there is a difference. The media seems to be trying to play with my mind with their wording. The rich have tax breaks. They are not paying certain taxes. They are saving money. Where is that extra money going? IDK and I wish I knew. I will tell you where it is not going; they are not giving employees raises, they are not hiring, they are encouraging doing more with less, etc.... So, I repeat, where is the money that they are saving at? We are taxed at the pump, grocery store, on the bills, and our lil paychecks. Taxes are necessary. We all need to pay them so that we (Americans) can pay the debts that we owe, lest not forget about schools, community centers, and hospitals. I can probably come up with more, but I won't right now. I don't hear many saying, "I make over $250k and I have hired X employees in the last month, please extend the tax breaks." So, excuse me, this statement is for the small percentage of the rich that receives the Bush credit right now: Tell me, what is being done with the $$ that you are saving, because if it is helping get this economy back on track then I can side with you. Until then, you do not have my vote.

We all need to do our part, including the RICH.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Sunday, September 19, 2010

A Child's Thoughts????

I come to you this morning with one question
What are you teaching your children?
or should the question really be
What are your children thinking?

When a child does the unthinkable (some examples in recent news; 15 year old rapes a woman in broad daylight as cars pass by or children taunt a girl with a disability on the school bus repeatedly), we often think first of the mother. What is she teaching her child. Some of us may question the parents teachings but often it is blamed on the mother. If you are a mother or father, do you teach your child to bully or take advantage of others. The answer is likely no. The questions really needs to be directed toward the children. A child is not always a reflection of their parents.

Incidences such as the above links are great opportunities for parents and care-givers to speak with the children. Find out what they think about the incidence first, then use this opportunity to enforce whats right and wrong.

This post was inspired by a posting by Live By Design Coaching.

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Stay True to SELF and others will follow

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

When Others Believe in YOU

Have you ever been nominated for something or asked to partake in helping with an something? If you answered yes, you may have been left wondering "why me?" Instead, you should be asking yourself, why not me? There are some qualities that we do not realize we possess, however, those that are around us see it as clear as day. It doesn't matter if you have fears, you need to note that if someone believed in you, then do the best you can, and while you are doing the thing that you feared you couldn't, you will began to believe more in yourself. I am always scared, scared of failing, scared of rejection, just plain scared of the unknown. After I ask myself, why not, I tell myself, fake it till you make it. What does that mean? The same as above, but here is another way of putting. Well, it means that you force yourself to do what you think you can't (faking it) and while you are becoming more comfortable, you then trick yourself into changing how you felt and you too believe (thus making it).

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, September 13, 2010

Friendships are Formed Early in Life

True Friendship

Preschool is usually when friendships outside of family members are formed. Each year the bond becomes stronger. The definition of a friend is a person you know well and regard with affection and trust. The word friend has many new names (these are as heard by my children, TV, and social networks); BFF, bestee, pal, buddy, homie my peeps, ride or die, my niggas (yes, I said it), etc. I would love for you to post some more names. My question is, when does one stop knowing how to be a friend. As humans we need one another; albeit to get ahead in life, to babysit our children/animals, or just to have a shoulder to cry on. I love my friends, each one has their own qualities and are there for me at various stages of my life. If you are a friend, you need to stay true, be there when your friend is falling, choose wise words to say, and offer encouragement. If you feel like you are going to or are capable of stabbing your friend in the back, walk away. One more thing, GET YOUR OWN! You should not rely on others to provide you with anything. Helping and relying upon is TWO DIFFERENT THINGS. Take the help of those willing to help and build on that, don't settle and think this is owed to you or you deserve this.





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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Happiness

Everyone deserves to be happy. I have come to the realization that everyone does not realize that they deserve to be happy. You need to be happy about the place that you are living in, the job that you have, the business(es) that you run, the mate that you are with, and the company that you keep. Often times, people tend to forget that they need to be happy within. The happiness that you have about yourself, the love that you have for yourself; radiates out of the pores of your skin, it shows on your face, and it is heard in your voice as you speak. If you are walking around pretending, STOP, because those who really know you, know that you are not truly happy. How do you know if you are truly happy? You are truly happy when you can look in the mirror and be happy about who is looking back at you. YOU need to love you for who you are, the skin that you are in, and for all of your attributes and flaws that you have. When you can except who and what you are, then YOU are TRULY HAPPY.

I am not without personal problems or issues. But, hands down, I am happy. I am happy for the skin that I am in. Also, don't get it twisted, there are days when I don't like what is looking back at me in the mirror, but for me, those are temporary feelings/temporary days. They DO NOT DICTATE the reflection of myself. When I am down or upset, it radiates out of me; it is highly noticeable. Those who know me will stop me to inquire about what is wrong. They know that I am not myself. When you are down all the time and people try to cheer you up and you refuse it, then your down state becomes norm and people stop caring about what ails you. Then, you start to think "no one cares about me," well, if you don't care about yourself and you've burned more bridges than you can build then, yes, it will appear that no one cares about you. The best way for you to change the way people react towards you is to
LEARN TO BE HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE!

Social Butterfly, how can I learn to be happy with myself? You can start by saying to yourself everyday in the mirror "
I AM HAPPY WITH WHO I AM" It is quick and takes less than 10 seconds to say, post it on your mirror, nightstand, the back of your front door, in your car right above the radio. You are going to fake it until you make it. Once you make it I promise you, I guarantee that YOU WILL BE HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE, you will have more meaningful relationship; whether friendly or intimate.

This posting is a part of a series about Community-Self.

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Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Thursday, September 9, 2010

11 Rules for our Children to Learn

One of my favorite proverb says, "It takes a village to raise a child." I love this proverb because I have been raising children since I was a child myself and I would not have been able to do it had it not been for my parents, grandparents, friends of the family, friends, neighbors, and the list goes on. Let's face it, it is a good thing when your child goes out to play and the neighbor sees him/her doing something that shouldn't be done. It is even better when the neighbor takes care of the issue before you find out. But, all in all, that is one aspect of this proverb. In recent times, parents like myself, have been getting help from other sources; social networks and blogs, just to name two. The information that is available on TV and the internet is so valuable. I have learned a lot. Remember when time-out was the thing in the 90s. Well, I used that and I heard about it on TV - it worked.

Below are 11 rules for our children to learn because they will not be taught this in the classroom. Before I give it to you, I must let you know that this was copied from a website. I lost the original link that I saw, however when looking for the article it has come to my attention that this was not the original words of Bill Gates but from a book titled: “Dumbing Down our Kids” by educator Charles Sykes. I have not read the book and I have not verified the wording, however I do agree with it for the most part as it is and that is how I am going to give it to you. As usual enjoy. Leave comments and spread the word. I love feedback.

Rule 1: Life is not fair-get used to it.

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make 40 Thousand dollars a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone, until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. He doesn’t have tenure.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping-they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parents’ generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers but life has not. In some schools they hav

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e abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. You have to do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one

This posting is a part of a series about Community-children/family.
Till Next Time......

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Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Grand Opening -- Quick Post

I just started a new business and I am inviting you to my Grand Opening. Send me an email at socialbutterflyemail@gmail.com - in the subject line say, "Invite" and give me your phone cell phone number so I can text you the number and the pin.






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Sunday, September 5, 2010

Self Motivation

There comes a time in everyone's life when she/he feels like all hope is lost. It may last for a second; a few hours; a lot of days; and for some, many years. I assure you that all hope is not lost. It just seems that way.

Here is a list of things for you to do or say to motivate yourself when you are sick and tired of attending that pity party you keep throwing for yourself. As usual, there is no particular order. Try them all and pick what works best.

  1. STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF! - You have control over how long you feel sorry for yourself. Dust your shoulder off and pick up the pieces that are worth salvaging.
  2. WRITE AND REPEAT! - Keep a journal, notepad, notebook, tablet, or utilize the notepad feature that may have come with your phone. Write positive notes to your self and/or repeat them to your self when you need a pick-me-up.
  3. TALK ABOUT IT! - Call, IM, text, PM (private message) your friend on Facebook. Get in contact with your friend and tell them what is going on. There is nothing like the comfort that a good friend offers. The words of wisdom that flows from that person's mouth will be like a breath of fresh air. SN: if you have never felt that way after speaking to your friend, don't call that one when you are feeling down.
Here are a few lines for you to say, I am sure one or more of them will pick you up:

I am going to live my life to the fullest.
I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.
When one door closes; several will become available to me -or- another one will open.
I love myself, flaws and all.
I love me for me.
Smile, Jesus loves you.
Be all you can be.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I have faith in myself.
No one can keep me down, I have the power to get back up.

This posting is a part of a series about Community-Self. I enjoyed writing this post and I hope you enjoyed reading it.

Till Next Time......

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Wednesday, September 1, 2010

A Rainy Day


You ever feel like going out side in the rain to ease your pain. What happens when it is not raining outside, do you go in the shower instead?

That was just a random thought. I really missed blogging so I decided to write something. Here is a list of things to do on a rainy day:

  1. Write - I have a few book ideas that I am working on at different times. Have you thought about writing a book. Get started!
  2. Clean - There is always going to be that area in your house that needs some special attention. Perhaps it is the area you love to forget about.
  3. Cook - Take inventory of all the things in your pantry and fridge. Create a dish like no other and eat off of something fancy.
  4. Sleep - We are all probably a little sleep deprived. Napping is great. Going to bed a couple of hours earlier than usual is even better.
  5. Shop - You know I sell women's accessories at Free Spirit Accessories. Go through your closet and find 7 outfits, request a catalog by sending me an email at socialbutterflyemail@gmail.com and buy 1 piece/set per outfit. That will give you enough flexibility to mix and match your pieces for a new look everyday.
What do you like to do on a rainy day

Till Next Time......

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Saturday, August 28, 2010

A Married Couple that Dances Together Stays Together

Sorry, I haven't blogged in a hot minute. School started for me and the children and it will take me a little time to get on a routine that works. So, I decided to take a break from my school work (I go online at the local community college in my town) and went on FaceBook. Attached is a video that I saw on my page; it is of a church in Chicago that has a married couples ministry. This is a wonderful idea for churches and I only hope that this is something that catches on fire and spreads as fast as wildfires. Marriage is one of those wonderful, amazing experiences; and at the same time it is most challenging thing next to parenting.

A Good Support System = A Strong Anything

My creative juices are flowing and I am thinking, "how can I do something like this in my community." Have you thought of how you can help the married people in your community?

I hope you enjoy this 5 minute video as much as I did.


This video was copied from Black and Married with Kids

Till Next Time......

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Friday, August 20, 2010

Shutting Down

Shutting down is a term I used when something or someone did go as planned, then I would shut them or it down. Well, spending many years going with the flow more got me out of practice. It is much harder for me to shut down. Why? Because I am more attached to my situations and have grown a heart. I am realizing, though, that I have decided to get rid of a skill that I thought was useless in having. Hmm, many years later, I am realizing that it is time to utilize that skill for the greater good. It is good for me to shut down.

So, what is shutting down? That is when I, in the past, have quit boyfriends because they are not meeting my needs or, oh, I think that is when I used it. I am laughing to myself. Ok, so the idea is to break things off that are not working (I do do that all the time). I don't glutten for pain, misery, or anything that would fit in that category. Shutting down gives you a break; a break from what you are used to. Humans tend to get comfortable in situations. We learn to deal with uncomfortable issues instead of speaking up and moving on (thats just something random I threw in there).

It is time for me to "SHUT IT DOWN." Things are not working out for me. I am at a cross between doing what my heart is telling me and doing what my mind is telling me. I am going to do another fast next week to see what the spirit is telling me to do.

One of the morals of this post is to figure out how to get in touch with your spirit so that when it is time for you to shut down, you know which way to go when you get going again.

Till Next Time......Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Now that is what I am talking about

Those who follow me, know that I am all about change. Here is an article about Chicago and Walgreens being apart of the change. Change is infectious. Oops, I just remembered that I was going to right about that disease. OK, it is coming soon. When you see there is a problem, keep you mind open to receive the possibilities that will come your way.

Here is the great article about eliminating Food Deserts. Enjoy!!!!

Till Next Time......

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Friday, August 13, 2010

Living In Unity
















While on my lunch break walk, I spotted two bugs; one on top of the other. These two bugs represented so much of what goes on in the human world. So, I decided to snap some photos of them with my iPhone camera. Well, it was soo bright, I really couldn't tell how good the pics would come out.

It is not everyday that you see a small brown bug on the back of a bigger green bug. I couldn't tell if they were the same species or not. But, one thing was very apparent, they were at piece. Enjoying themselves in the hot summer sun; not paying me any mind at all. In my mind these bugs could be two races living in harmony, husband and wife getting their grove on; best friends from different socioeconomic backgrounds. The bottom line; they were different and didn't seem to mind it one bit.

I dream of a world where races can live together in peace and harmony; husbands and wives get along in spite of their differences; and friendships can sprout up from the strangest situations.

Till Next Time......

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, August 9, 2010

Wyclef Jean for President



Sometime you have to be the change. What that means is simply this: You see things around you that are not right. Why not figure out how you can make it right. Then, surround yourself with those like-minded people and go forth.

Positive change is good..... I am so sure that he can make the difference. The history of the Haitian people is great, the future of the Haitian people is greater.

Till next time.....

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Sunday, August 8, 2010

Have I influenced you?

Magazine company Fast Company has a project going on. It is called the influence Project and I wanted to try it out. All you need to do is click here. That's it, simple, right? If you want to try it out, then you would just create your own influence link. If you have Facebook, just sign in using that. Happy influencing.


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Saturday, August 7, 2010

Renew Oneself!

Most of us don't take the necessary time to breathe. We are so busy making sure that we are getting that to-do list done. Well, don't you think it is about time you change your routine and add in a little extra time to renew yourself?

Here are some tips that I shared on Women of Color in Business. I hope I got your creative juices flowing.

Enjoy, Till Next Time......

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Friday, August 6, 2010

Put down your righteous flags

I did not plan on writing another post today, but I think I need to. I am all about social issues and changing whether it is yourself or others. I was on facebook today and saw a friends post about the FIRST LADY taking a vacation. I don't know about my readers, but gosh, the things that makes the news kills me sometimes. We, as a people CAN NOT allow foolish things in the media to deter us from what is IMPORTANT. First Lady taking another vacation - not important....First Lady's health initiatives - important. You have to admit that if you had the money, you would be taking yourself a vacation too. Here is my comment about the article:

I am so tired of people waving their righteous flags. Put those S*&$s down. There are plenty of people with money and they are spending it. I work 5 days a week helping people spend their money. If those with money didn't spend it, then ...I and you may not have the jobs/businesses that we have. These issues that are constantly being bought up in the media is to deter you from the realization of "what's really going on". Yes, people are losing there jobs and killing others b/c of it. But, know that this recession is not affecting any and everyone. They President and his wife like Shameka said, were rich before they got into office and they will be rich when they leave. We need not get caught up in all this hoopla, we need to look at ourselves and uplift those around us. Imagine if the whole world did that, iso being upset that the woman took a vacation. I don't care if she took 100 vacations a year. My concern with her as a FIRST LADY, is is she doing her job and is she keeping her husband in check, is she being a good back bone, is she telling him when decision are not right. Thats what we all need to be concerned about not how many vacations she takes.
Till Next Time.....

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Fighting Extreme Global Poverty

The Movement of One Day's Wages from One Day's Wages on Vimeo.

I wanted to share this video with you. When I first watched, I was like wow. Poverty, the ending of poverty is part of Social Butterfly's mission statement. I am not exactly sure when we will be able to start our own initiative, but we sure can help others do what they are set to do.

Being a part of any CHANGE is definitely a good thing.

Till next time.....

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Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Don't be so quick to.....

I am all about change as most of my readers already know. Change is good for your soul when you decide that you are going to change for the better. Changing for the better can mean a lot of things for a lot of people. I am in the process of changing some bad habits. How am I doing with that by the way? I hear you asking. Well, I am falling often, dusting my shoulders off, and getting back up again.

So, enough about me. I really want to talk about making haste. When we as a people decide we want to make a change for the better, there will always be a people who will try their darnedest to shut you down. Stand strong, place your feet on solid ground, hold your head up.... and know, just because you are doing good, there will be people that don't want to see you make that good change. They will be quick to turn around and turn your positives into negatives. A perfect example is the recent incident with Shirley Sherrod. A fellow blogger says it best, so click Kyra's Web Log to get the scoop on how some of us feel about people who make haste with their negativity.

As usual, Till Next Time.......

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, July 19, 2010

Testing Testing 1 2 3

Test; I am not that good at them. I don't study well, especially if I don't have a good study guide. Well, life test don't come with study guides. At least not the type of guides that I want. I want to know what the test questions look like, what are some possible solutions or answers to the test questions. I know, the likelihood of something like that is null. What I am realizing though, is that if I remain calm, think about what the test is, then my inner self will guide me.

So, what is this post all about. Well, wouldn't you know, my husbands truck broke down. Remember, his truck was supposed to carry me till the end of the month. Oh, if I didn't tell you that part, now you know. I remember when my van broke down, how helpless I felt. I wasn't even able to talk to the people who were trying to help me. Since then, I have made some connections with God, my inner being (sometimes referred to as my inner self), my spirit, and well being. In doing so 2 weeks ago, this situation is much more bearable. I know it is not the end of my world and that somehow, things will work out. My prayer this time was Lord, just don't take a person in my life. I can learn to deal with life's issues, but losing a loved one was not going to work for me. God knows why I said that.

Well, here I am, not sure if I will make it to work for the next 2 weeks. But, I am ready to see what is in store for me. I have really learned that my life's problems are making me stronger and ready for the greater good. I, just for a moment, thought about if these events happened to me sooner. Oh, the stress and anger would have plagued me for days. God knew what he was doing when he made me humble myself.
Publish Post

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Sunday, July 18, 2010

Rome was not Built in a Day

They say it takes 30 days to create a new habit. Well, how about 21 days. It doesn't really matter how many days it takes as long as you know that it takes time. You can't beat yourself over the head when you lapse. The habits that I have (I have plenty) are being changed slowly. When I fall off one day, I always have my inner self cheering me on to be better at it the next.

So, I will share two of the habits that I am trying to break now: (drum roll please)

  1. Bill paying: I hate it, and I hate it more when I feel that I don't have enough money to cover it all.
  2. Overeating: I do have my favoites foods that I can just devour. I now find balance during the day or within the next few days to compensate if I hate too much.

So, when you decide that it is time to change something; don't be hard on yourself, know that it takes time, connect with your inner self for guidance, and grab yourself an accountability partner (more on that in another post).

Till next time.....

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Friday, July 9, 2010

My Fast is Complete

I will have fasted for 3 days at 6pm on July 9th, 2010. I feel great and am forever grateful that I have decided to travel this journey for I now see it has brought me closer to where I need to be in life. I was compelled to do some out of ordinary things for these 3 days; July 7th - 9th, 2010.

  1. Fast
  2. Write 2 blog post; The first is about the experience of how I came to do this fast, The second was about the changes in which all of us have been experiencing in our lives and how now we are prepared for the changes that are about to take place.
  3. Do a video blog; which I am sharing here. This prayer came to me on my first eve of the fast. I am quite nervous in sharing it but these are the words that I wrote.



He's Doing Great Things

I am having a great happy day!!

I've had a series of good and bad feelings/things happen to me within a 1 1/2 week span. The big picture: My husband has gone to Barbados for a month to visit his family. I, to tell you the truth, was having mixed feelings about the separation; but, believe me when I tell you, I was ready for the separation. Well, low and behold, we couldn't connect for the first few days he was gone, because he'd call when I am just getting in, the house is a mess, my head space was just not right. I didn't want to speak to him. Then we'd speak and argue. One day, on my way to work, I was listening to gospel music and was feeling God's presence. To make a long story shorter, let me tell you, I have never had a great feeling come over me before. I felt great that day. The next morning, I had another argument with my husband, went to work, listening to my gospel music, and then...my car started feeling funny. I started praying because I know, I am not going to know what to do. I did make it to the gas station, where I eventually broke down. I cried in front of strangers and my boss. I was in a place where I didn't want to be. As people have now seen me at a low point whereas people are used to seeing me at a higher point. I made it through that day. I am now driving my husbands truck till he comes home to fix my van (yes, I drive a van not a car). So, a few days later, I am on my way to work, listening to HE WANTS IT ALL TODAY over and over; and realizing I have time to go and buy breakfast and I heard something say fast. I am like what, fast, naw, you must be kidding me. But then I said, I wonder if this is God talking to me and he wants to do something to me. I am no church goer but I was brought up in church and have heard somethings. I just thank God I was at a point that I could recognize what was going on, how many things have I missed because I didn't listen. Anyway, I was like dang, I can't not eat all day, but I am up for a challenge. I sought out guidance from some of my church going friends on how I can do this thing and inquired how long should I do it. Well, one of those great friends said, "Fast 3 days from 6am - 6pm" I was like, I can do that.

Today is my day 3.
Before day 1: It was the evening when I was on FB and a friend posted the fact that they were listening to He wants it all for the 5th time. I was like what is that, let me find it. He didn't post the link so I listened and posted the link for others to easily find it.

Day 1: While listening to the above mentioned song, I was told to fast. During this day, I received confirmation.

Day 2: I met like-minded people that I have been seeking for so long. You know how you are needing to surround yourself with like-minded people so that you can grow. I got that. As I write this, the tears are pouring. I have asked God for years for help, cursed him for giving me this gift. The gift I have is to empower women and the reason that I can't do it myself is that it is a whole package. It is hard to explain right now, but I recognized that my gift is just a part of something bigger. Last night, I met 2 not 1, but 2 women that are so much like me. It was a surreal situation. My prayers were answered.

Day 3: I am on the last day of my fast and have been compelled to share this story with you.

We are More Prepared for the Changes to Come

Some of us was not prepared for the shift changes that has occurred within the last few years. We, for the most part, was caught off guard. Probably had the mindset that 'we were good', 'not me', or 'I got this'. The lost of jobs and homes and livelihoods was devastating. My shift change occurred right after 9/11 and I have been learning to live within this tornado that has developed from the storm that has been brewing from this shift change. I have learned a lot about survival as I am sure you have too.

The term 'Life is Good' is true for all of us whether we can accept it or not. But, trust me when I tell you your 'Life is Good'. We can not grow unless we go through trials and tribulations. We fall and gain the courage to get right back up. We live a fast life and then the powers that be, puts a halt to that. We can't get mad or stay mad at that because, it's just an indication that we are not living right. Not having a job, losing your home, helping our children deal with things that we ourselves have never had to deal with is all apart of a bigger plan. If you claim that, then it is so.

I Fell Today

I fell today
Flat on my face
I wanted to win it
So, I joined the race
I never ran a marathon
I never picked up a microphone
That didn't stop me
Confidence, you see

I was running so well
I passed a few and along the way
I fell flat on my face
Came home and argued with my man
He yelled at me and said "GET OVER IT
KEEP RUNNING AND DO IT AGAIN"
What the fuck he know.
He's not the one with all the bruises
I scraped my knee, broke a couple of teeth
Nearly broke my heart for my EGO got up and
Took one look at me and is now ashamed of me
Original Poem by Jenise Bradshaw (not OK to duplicate without mentioning my name and source)



Till Next time......


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Monday, July 5, 2010

My Own Domain



It feels really good to have your own things. iamsocialbutterfly.blogspot.com is now iamsocialbutterfly.com. Yippee. The transition will be complete within 3 days, but I am soo excited that I just have to share the good news RIGHT NOW.

Till next time.....

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Keep Still

Remember when your mom needed to do your hair or fix something on you and she'd ask you to keep still. How about when your teacher commanded your attention or when in church you kept figiting in the pew: "Keep still", one of your parents would say.

Well, sometimes I have to tell myself to keep still. Even though it is not my physical body thats moving, my mind is. Sometimes it is good, and sometimes, well not so good. Like when I have school work to complete. I hadn't mind the lack of keeping still my mind before I got sooo involved with the internet. But, none the less, I noticed a long time ago that I can not complete task without starting another one. Classic example, lets say I am cleaning the bathroom and my daughters sweater is on the floor. I pick it up, go and hang it up where it belongs and, instead of going right back to the bathroom to finish, I am distracted by something else and I am now cleaning up in my daughters room. Ugh, this is so annoying. But, this is something about myself that I know exist so, I embrace it. I try to work it out.

Well, OMG, here comes the computer. I mean, computers have been around since I was a kid so it is not new. But, now, I am growing a few businesses and going to school full-time while working 5 days a week. Talk about overload. Most days, I don't mind because I know, it won't be like that forever. So, when I set out to do something online, ie. add product to my online store, it takes super long. I have tweetdeck making noise and popping up on my screen (I am trying to learn more about social issues and NPOs (non-profit organizations) I will talk about tweetdeck in another post.) I have numerous tabs open because I swear I am going to come back and read that article or see what product someone is selling. Don't get me started on my FB (facebook) games; btw (by the way) I have given up on a few games and I am down to 1.
All in all though, I love the information I am getting online. I mean, think back 10 years and the lack of readily available information. I know that I probably suffer from adult ADD but, I embrace who I am and I try to work it out with all the distractions. "Because if I don't learn something or visit some site to figure something new out, I would just die", I say in a bratty teenage voice. LOL

Till next time....

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Prioritize

Life is hard. Often times, it doesn't seem as if it will get any easier. I write this post just to share the words in which I tell myself. There isn't anything as precious in this world as time. When you are not focused enough, time slips away.

Get focused! Get goals! Stay Prioritized!!

Till next time..........subsribe and check back often

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Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Found the light switch


I tell you, there is nothing more exciting than to be happy with your life. Don't get me wrong, everything isn't where I want it to be but I am happy with where I am currently in my life. Years of being unhappy, unsure, undecided....what a dark time. The thing is, once your eyes get adjusted to a dark room, it no longer seems like its really dark after all. Thing is, the lights are out whether you can see the space you are in or not. Well, the lights are on in my life and it is a bright light. There is no chance that I would bump into anything. All decisions/moves are made fully aware of my surroundings/consequences.

One of the goals of the Social Butterfly Group is to help other women find that light switch.

Until next time......

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, June 14, 2010

Getting it Together


There is no other task that is harder than GETTING IT TOGETHER.

Too little time
I wish it was all mine


Too little help
Can you hear me YELP

Too much stress
Enough to make one depressed

Too much on my plate
Thrown in the water for shark bait

There is no other task as hard as GETTING IT TOGETHER

Hope you enjoyed.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Feed Me Nutrition and Knowledge

A famous proverb reads, "Train a child in the way he should grow, for when he is old, he will not depart from it."

I love that proverb. My parents brought me up fairly well and a lot of what I was taught, I utilize in my everyday life. My hope for my youth is very much the same. I, as much as I can, like to relate how what I am telling them will help them once they are grown.

I also grew up with the saying, "Do as I say and not as I do." I still love this one. I understand the new philosophy. Your children are watching you. Yea, but even though they are watching me, they are still choosing to do what they want to do. Classic example: Scenario 1. My children see me not working and maintaining a clean house. Scenario 2. They are older. I am working, and I am not maintaining as I used to. I am not doing anything because I work and go to school full-time. With both of these scenarios, the children are watching. Now, when they are told to do their chores or help around the house and they don't, who or what are they emmulating.

Bottom line, do like me and just make sure they are fed nutritious meals most of the time and understand the importance of them and give them as much knowledge as you have all while encouraging them and yourself to seek out more.

I hope you liked my post today. As usual, Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Maybe There Was A Mass Mutation Of Our Genes

Let's face it, we have all thought, at some point, within the last 24 hours that kids these days are "crazy, stupid, ignorant, immature, something is missing, inconsiderate,....." And the list can go on for days. But what could have happened. Yes, our parents and their parents had complaints about our generation, BUT..... I am just saying. Something started in the late 80s, and went and got worse in the 90s (thats when a couple of mine were born, and gosh darnit, you can forget about the ones that were born in the early 2000s (I mean they are still very young right now, but they are watching the ones from the 80s and 90s). Well, anyway, my theory is that there had to have been a mutation of the genes. We kinda stoped making them the way we used to. On top of this mass mutation of genes, we stopped raising them the way we were raised.

Bottom line, something needs to change in the way we are raising our youth. The best way is to start with our own, then when your childs friends don't have the right guidance, step in. We gotta start somewhere.



Till next time; Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Monday, June 7, 2010

The Social Butterfly Group

Q: What is the Social Butterfly Group?
A: A company that was formed by a woman with a purpose. Her purpose in life is to help others move from one level of their lives to the next level.

Q: Well, how is this woman going to do that?
A: Just by sharing information. Knowledge is POWER. Here's where you come in. You, your family, and friends will join my fan page Social Butterfly Group (that is where I share most all my business) and subscribe to this blog.

Q: OK, so I told everyone I know. What's in it for me?
A: You will have access to tools that will give you wisdom beyond your imagination. The best way to get ahead is to know what is ahead of you. It will always be up to you what you do with the information that you are given. But after following Social Butterfly, you will never be able to say, "dang, I wish I knew that before!" Remember, this is not only about you, but about all those around you.

Anyone who follows Social Butterfly will benefit. Becoming aware of whats available to you is a positive change. Positive Change is an infectious disease, once it spreads, it has nothing but positive adverse effects on everyone infected.

Q: Is there any other way I can support Social Butterfly?
A: Well of course, there will be plenty of ways to support in the future. But right now, you can visit Free Spirit Accessories and email your order for handmade accessories; and you can book your future travel itineraries at http://www.sbgtravel.worldventures.com/.
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Till next post; Live Positive <> Stay Positive
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