Don't be so quick to.....

I am all about change as most of my readers already know. Change is good for your soul when you decide that you are going to change for the better. Changing for the better can mean a lot of things for a lot of people. I am in the process of changing some bad habits. How am I doing with that by the way? I hear you asking. Well, I am falling often, dusting my shoulders off, and getting back up again.

So, enough about me. I really want to talk about making haste. When we as a people decide we want to make a change for the better, there will always be a people who will try their darnedest to shut you down. Stand strong, place your feet on solid ground, hold your head up.... and know, just because you are doing good, there will be people that don't want to see you make that good change. They will be quick to turn around and turn your positives into negatives. A perfect example is the recent incident with Shirley Sherrod. A fellow blogger says it best, so click Kyra's Web Log to get the scoop on how some of us feel about people who make haste with their negativity.

As usual, Till Next Time.......

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

Testing Testing 1 2 3

Test; I am not that good at them. I don't study well, especially if I don't have a good study guide. Well, life test don't come with study guides. At least not the type of guides that I want. I want to know what the test questions look like, what are some possible solutions or answers to the test questions. I know, the likelihood of something like that is null. What I am realizing though, is that if I remain calm, think about what the test is, then my inner self will guide me.

So, what is this post all about. Well, wouldn't you know, my husbands truck broke down. Remember, his truck was supposed to carry me till the end of the month. Oh, if I didn't tell you that part, now you know. I remember when my van broke down, how helpless I felt. I wasn't even able to talk to the people who were trying to help me. Since then, I have made some connections with God, my inner being (sometimes referred to as my inner self), my spirit, and well being. In doing so 2 weeks ago, this situation is much more bearable. I know it is not the end of my world and that somehow, things will work out. My prayer this time was Lord, just don't take a person in my life. I can learn to deal with life's issues, but losing a loved one was not going to work for me. God knows why I said that.

Well, here I am, not sure if I will make it to work for the next 2 weeks. But, I am ready to see what is in store for me. I have really learned that my life's problems are making me stronger and ready for the greater good. I, just for a moment, thought about if these events happened to me sooner. Oh, the stress and anger would have plagued me for days. God knew what he was doing when he made me humble myself.

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Rome was not Built in a Day

They say it takes 30 days to create a new habit. Well, how about 21 days. It doesn't really matter how many days it takes as long as you know that it takes time. You can't beat yourself over the head when you lapse. The habits that I have (I have plenty) are being changed slowly. When I fall off one day, I always have my inner self cheering me on to be better at it the next.

So, I will share two of the habits that I am trying to break now: (drum roll please)

1. Bill paying: I hate it, and I hate it more when I feel that I don't have enough money to cover it all.
2. Overeating: I do have my favoites foods that I can just devour. I now find balance during the day or within the next few days to compensate if I hate too much.

So, when you decide that it is time to change something; don't be hard on yourself, know that it takes time, connect with your inner self for guidance, and grab yourself an accountability partner (more on that in another post).

Till next time.....

Live Positive <> Stay Positive

My Fast is Complete

I will have fasted for 3 days at 6pm on July 9th, 2010. I feel great and am forever grateful that I have decided to travel this journey for I now see it has brought me closer to where I need to be in life. I was compelled to do some out of ordinary things for these 3 days; July 7th - 9th, 2010.

1. Fast
2. Write 2 blog post; The first is about the experience of how I came to do this fast, The second was about the changes in which all of us have been experiencing in our lives and how now we are prepared for the changes that are about to take place.
3. Do a video blog; which I am sharing here. This prayer came to me on my first eve of the fast. I am quite nervous in sharing it but these are the words that I wrote.

He's Doing Great Things

I am having a great happy day!!

I've had a series of good and bad feelings/things happen to me within a 1 1/2 week span. The big picture: My husband has gone to Barbados for a month to visit his family. I, to tell you the truth, was having mixed feelings about the separation; but, believe me when I tell you, I was ready for the separation. Well, low and behold, we couldn't connect for the first few days he was gone, because he'd call when I am just getting in, the house is a mess, my head space was just not right. I didn't want to speak to him. Then we'd speak and argue. One day, on my way to work, I was listening to gospel music and was feeling God's presence. To make a long story shorter, let me tell you, I have never had a great feeling come over me before. I felt great that day. The next morning, I had another argument with my husband, went to work, listening to my gospel music, and then...my car started feeling funny. I started praying because I know, I am not going to know what to do. I did make it to the gas station, where I eventually broke down. I cried in front of strangers and my boss. I was in a place where I didn't want to be. As people have now seen me at a low point whereas people are used to seeing me at a higher point. I made it through that day. I am now driving my husbands truck till he comes home to fix my van (yes, I drive a van not a car). So, a few days later, I am on my way to work, listening to HE WANTS IT ALL TODAY over and over; and realizing I have time to go and buy breakfast and I heard something say fast. I am like what, fast, naw, you must be kidding me. But then I said, I wonder if this is God talking to me and he wants to do something to me. I am no church goer but I was brought up in church and have heard somethings. I just thank God I was at a point that I could recognize what was going on, how many things have I missed because I didn't listen. Anyway, I was like dang, I can't not eat all day, but I am up for a challenge. I sought out guidance from some of my church going friends on how I can do this thing and inquired how long should I do it. Well, one of those great friends said, "Fast 3 days from 6am - 6pm" I was like, I can do that.

Today is my day 3.

Before day 1: It was the evening when I was on FB and a friend posted the fact that they were listening to He wants it all for the 5th time. I was like what is that, let me find it. He didn't post the link so I listened and posted the link for others to easily find it.

Day 1: While listening to the above mentioned song, I was told to fast. During this day, I received confirmation.

Day 2: I met like-minded people that I have been seeking for so long. You know how you are needing to surround yourself with like-minded people so that you can grow. I got that. As I write this, the tears are pouring. I have asked God for years for help, cursed him for giving me this gift. The gift I have is to empower women and the reason that I can't do it myself is that it is a whole package. It is hard to explain right now, but I recognized that my gift is just a part of something bigger. Last night, I met 2 not 1, but 2 women that are so much like me. It was a surreal situation. My prayers were answered.

Day 3: I am on the last day of my fast and have been compelled to share this story with you.

We are More Prepared for the Changes to Come

Some of us was not prepared for the shift changes that has occurred within the last few years. We, for the most part, was caught off guard. Probably had the mindset that 'we were good', 'not me', or 'I got this'. The lost of jobs and homes and livelihoods was devastating. My shift change occurred right after 9/11 and I have been learning to live within this tornado that has developed from the storm that has been brewing from this shift change. I have learned a lot about survival as I am sure you have too.

The term 'Life is Good' is true for all of us whether we can accept it or not. But, trust me when I tell you your 'Life is Good'. We can not grow unless we go through trials and tribulations. We fall and gain the courage to get right back up. We live a fast life and then the powers that be, puts a halt to that. We can't get mad or stay mad at that because, it's just an indication that we are not living right. Not having a job, losing your home, helping our children deal with things that we ourselves have never had to deal with is all apart of a bigger plan. If you claim that, then it is so.

I Fell Today

I fell today

Flat on my face

I wanted to win it

So, I joined the race

I never ran a marathon

I never picked up a microphone

That didn't stop me

Confidence, you see

I was running so well

I passed a few and along the way

I fell flat on my face

Came home and argued with my man

He yelled at me and said "GET OVER IT

KEEP RUNNING AND DO IT AGAIN"

What the fuck he know.

He's not the one with all the bruises

I scraped my knee, broke a couple of teeth

Nearly broke my heart for my EGO got up and

Took one look at me and is now ashamed of me

Original Poem by Jenise Bradshaw (not OK to duplicate without mentioning my name and source)

Till Next time......


Live Positive <> Stay Positive

My Own Domain

It feels really good to have your own things. iamsocialbutterfly.blogspot.com is now iamsocialbutterfly.com. Yippee. The transition will be complete within 3 days, but I am soo excited that I just have to share the good news RIGHT NOW.

Till next time.....

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Keep Still

Remember when your mom needed to do your hair or fix something on you and she'd ask you to keep still. How about when your teacher commanded your attention or when in church you kept figiting in the pew: "Keep still", one of your parents would say.

Well, sometimes I have to tell myself to keep still. Even though it is not my physical body thats moving, my mind is. Sometimes it is good, and sometimes, well not so good. Like when I have school work to complete. I hadn't mind the lack of keeping still my mind before I got sooo involved with the internet. But, none the less, I noticed a long time ago that I can not complete task without starting another one. Classic example, lets say I am cleaning the bathroom and my daughters sweater is on the floor. I pick it up, go and hang it up where it belongs and, instead of going right back to the bathroom to finish, I am distracted by something else and I am now cleaning up in my daughters room. Ugh, this is so annoying. But, this is something about myself that I know exist so, I embrace it. I try to work it out.

Well, OMG, here comes the computer. I mean, computers have been around since I was a kid so it is not new. But, now, I am growing a few businesses and going to school full-time while working 5 days a week. Talk about overload. Most days, I don't mind because I know, it won't be like that forever. So, when I set out to do something online, ie. add product to my online store, it takes super long. I have tweetdeck making noise and popping up on my screen (I am trying to learn more about social issues and NPOs (non-profit organizations) I will talk about tweetdeck in another post.) I have numerous tabs open because I swear I am going to come back and read that article or see what product someone is selling. Don't get me started on my FB (facebook) games; btw (by the way) I have given up on a few games and I am down to 1.

All in all though, I love the information I am getting online. I mean, think back 10 years and the lack of readily available information. I know that I probably suffer from adult ADD but, I embrace who I am and I try to work it out with all the distractions. "Because if I don't learn something or visit some site to figure something new out, I would just die", I say in a bratty teenage voice. LOL

Till next time....

Live Positive <> Stay Positive